Forget simply falling in love. According to some headhunters, the secret to finding “the one” in NYC is to treat it like a numbers game. Buddy, if a date ever feels like that, save you and the other person some time and end it as fast as possible. You don't have life to waste and neither does the girl. So you're meeting an internet stranger in a bar and, naturally, you want to gauge right away if they could be a serial killer. Maybe the dude in.