Your body tells you to want the aggressive jerk because nature is telling you he has stronger sperm. The thing about dating is we never really learn our lesson. It doesn't matter how many jerks we encounter in the dating world; we'll still be attracted to them. We can't just change our biology to suddenly like the nice, quiet guy who keeps asking us out.
Women want hot sex over quiet conversation. Women are always attracted to the damaged, broken individual because most of us love a project.